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MUST READ From Wear Your Voice: For Some Survivors, Phone Sex Can Be a Path To Healing

14 Oct , 2020  

One of my favorite publications, Wear Your Voice published an article highlighting the empowerment that phone sex can provide, whether it be professional or personal. Although it is not a traditional form of therapy for survivors, it offers a way to build autonomy without utilizing your body or sacrificing your own pleasure. 

KNOWING I CONTROL MY PLEASURE AND BOUNDARIES COMFORTS ME. WITH PHONE SEX, SURVIVORS CAN GET CREATIVE ON OUR OWN TERMS WITHOUT SACRIFICING OUR PLEASURE.”

You can view the link here.

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11 Erotic Artists We Love: October Edition

13 Oct , 2020  

The great thing about social media is that it has allowed for a host of artists to share their work in ways they previously weren’t allowed to before. Sites such as Twitter and Instagram have allowed for a thriving community that elevates erotic artwork and allows for artists to showcase the best of what they have to offer. Particularly of interest, erotic art has seen a surge over the past decade, with thousands of artists emerging to share their appreciation of sex and the human body. Here at Bonoboville, we also have an appreciation of sex and the human body and have built up a gallery of erotic art over the years. For the month of October, we’ve put together a list of some pretty talented and exciting artists to support not only on social media, but with your dollars. See our first list below:

AVERY HORNN

Twitter: https://twitter.com/AveryHornn

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/averyhornn/

Shop: https://hotketchup.bigcartel.com/

Leather Virgin Print

FUDGESLOTH

Twitter: https://twitter.com/fudgesloth

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fudgesloth2.0/

Shop: https://stillakid.bigcartel.com/

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APOLLONIA SAINTCLAIR

Twitter: https://twitter.com/e_sympathique

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/apollonia.saintclair/

Shop: https://apolloniasaintclair.bigcartel.com/

NAUGHTY NORMAN

Twitter: https://twitter.com/norman_naughty

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/naughtynormanart/

Shop: https://naughtynormansart.com/

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SEX AND CAFFEINE

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexandCaffeine

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexandcaffeine4/

Shop: https://society6.com/sexandcaffeine

Master of Puppets Cutting BoardDOMINIC FUSKOWICH

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DFuskowich

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dominicfuskowich/

 

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TASTY ART GURL

Twitter: https://twitter.com/tastyartgurl

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tastyartgurlerotic3/

Shop: https://www.tastyartgurl.com/

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LEE ZIMMERMAN

Twitter: https://twitter.com/zim2918

Shop: Purchasing info on Twitter

 

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PSYCHOTIC ART

Twitter: https://twitter.com/Psychotic_Art

Shop: Purchasing info on Twitter

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PERCE COEUR

Twitter: https://twitter.com/ifymofficial

Site: https://percecoeur.com/galerie/

Shop: Email illupercecoeur@gmail.com

 

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NYMPHIDIA

Twitter: https://mobile.twitter.com/nymphidia_

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nymphidia_/

Shop: Info TBA. Follow on social media for updates.

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What About Dating in the Era of Social Distancing?

12 Oct , 2020  

Over the course of history, there have been landmark events that reinvented our approach to sex such as the mass production of the car, World War II (with the fifties and the rise of the nuclear family following suit), the invention of birth control, and even pandemics of past generations.

This wouldn’t be the first time that the United States has dealt with a monstrous pandemic. The Spanish Flu of 1918 also altered dating and intimacy, where any forms of sexual contact (especially kissing) were regarded as deadly and taboo. As social distancing proves itself to be the new normal, once again we’ll have to adapt.

While humans are attached to technology, at the same time we still crave face-to-face interactions. How do we build relationships and experience pleasure with other humans without the ease of social events? Over the past several months, it seems as if we’ve regressed to Regency-era antics akin to Pride and Prejudice, with wistful stares across the room, and where merely brushing fingers is like tasting the Forbidden Fruit. In the midst of a transitional period in history, how are those of us stuck in limbo going to make do?

With a culture driven by technology, finding love (or temporary satisfaction) is a double-edged sword. On one hand, the internet has unveiled a host of possibilities. Free of geographical constraints, and connecting bridges between unique interests, souls may find each other online that may have without the help of the internet. Over the past two decades, there have been millions of platonic, romantic, and purely sexual bonds that have formed with the aid of cyberspace. On the other hand, social media has increased the amount of lazy and surface-level interactions. Due to the abundance of readily available information, and the lack of effort needed to attain it, modern sex and dating have become even more of a conundrum. 

To top it off, the hookup culture of today combined with hustle mentality and our increasingly nomadic nature has placed short-lived, self-serving ecstasy above meaningful relationships founded on mutual interests and taking the time to “get to know each other.” Sure the latter still happens, but it has become increasingly difficult to find. 

Over the past several months, I’ve pondered what social distancing means for the future of those of us that are still very single. If you’re looking for love or lust, this period proves to be a massive hurdle to overcome. For the time being, gone are the days of meeting a hottie at a bar or a fated run-in in a coffee shop. Gone are the days of which you’d swipe right and link up for a steamy rendezvous. If you don’t have a thriving inner circle, it may be a task to meet new people who share your beliefs and interests. 

So now what? 

At this time, it’s important to be optimistic. If you’re still looking to try your hand at dating, perhaps it’s time to rejoin those dating apps you’ve sworn off. It may take a bit of mining and right-swiping, but there’s still a possibility that there’s someone just like you looking for you too. Also, in the virtual world, there are tons of classes, workshops, and gatherings to meet people. If you can find a regular gathering that suits your interests, you can add more interesting people to your circle. There’s a little more effort involved to meet like-minded souls these days, but it’s still possible. During the era of social distancing, this means that most individuals will be more selective of potential partners, and will more than likely take more time to get to know one another, or in some cases, there will be less “game-playing.” If someone isn’t interested, they simply won’t move forward.

On the other hand, quarantine is an excellent time for self-discovery and self-love. If you’re not used to being alone, this is a great time for rest and relaxation. It’s also a great time to develop and learn outside of the influence of others. While isolation can be harrowing, it forces some introspection. With everything moving at a slower pace, there’s more time to figure out who you are, where you are going, and what you want your current life to look like. Whenever you’re ready to put yourself out there again, you’ll be a better person, and have a better knowledge of what you’d like out of a relationship. 

So what direction are you heading towards?

STAY TUNED FOR PART II of this article with suggestions on sexy activities during quarantine!

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