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#GoBonobos for “The Bonobo Way” by Dr. Susan Block

18 Nov , 2019  

Celebrating five years of love, sex and conservation, The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace Through Pleasure is the much needed breath of fresh air in a world set ablaze by the wildfires of misogyny, femicide, and war. Written by international sex expert, and Yale graduate, Dr. Susan Block, her book is a manifesto to female empowerment and inclusivity that is inspired by our other great ape cousins, the bonobos—also known as Pan Paniscus. According to Dr. Block, these endangered primates have a lot to teach humanity and what they can teach could save your sex life, if not the world.

At the book’s core, it is a call to action, a seductive moan from a lover’s ear to put down the toys of war, and instead, learn the ways of pleasure. From the jungle to the bedroom, this book is an arousing spotlight on sexuality as we know it and offers hope for the hapless, even if that hapless person is you. Block’s narrative is an (s)exploration into human nature that is complete with orgasmic anecdotes, tales of lust, love, trust, relationships goals, power exchanges and much more.

What is most appealing about this book is the inclusiveness of Dr. Block’s narratives, she provides practical relationship tools—for the monogamous, the bi-curious, the polyamorous, as well as full-fledged swingers and other non-monogamists—with a tone that is uplifting, affirming, and most of all, relatable. The steps she lays out are useful for solo and partnered relationships, covering matters of intimacy, tips for role-play, BDSM as well as sexual etiquette. The information is laid out as a twelve step guide dubbed, “How to Release Your Inner Bonobo,” which she discussed as the keynote speaker of the Ecosexuality Symposium at University of Puerto Rico, Mayaguez, and as a guest of Honor at Domcon Los Angeles. The step-work includes strategies for awakening the dormant inner bonobo that is in each of us.

With anecdotes from Dr. Block’s journal, references to world news, politics, porn, ecological conservation and numerous cultures, reading each step pleasurable. Moreover, her personality squirts through the ink with each flip of the page. Throughout the book, Block’s narratives bring the concept of “peace through pleasure” to life as she contrasts the damaging effects of chimpish behavior to the restorative power of bonboesque sisterhood.

The overarching appeal of The Bonobo Way is that the message intersects with the values of ecological advocates, politicians, animal rights activists, military veterans, porn stars, sex therapists, radio hosts, feminists, dommes, as well as people across the LGBTQIA+ spectrum. On a textual level, the book is an exploration in eco-feminism, with Dr. Block’s own environment of expertise highlighted: Her Bonoboville Speakeasy in Downtown Los Angeles, complete with a broadcast bed, lights, cameras, and plenty of action—you may recognize it from LA Weekly’s coverage of Eros Day X + Orgy for Obama

Block’s bond to the bonobos is never far from the surface of the text; from a first introduction to the species while watching a PBS special in bed with her husband Max, to an inter-species meeting with Lana at the San Diego Zoo in Southern California (that’s them on the cover of the book!), Dr. Block’s advocacy to preserve the endangered bonobos who “empower the female” and “never kill each other” is reinforced as she cites their capacity for empathy, compassion, and sexual prowess. She reminds the reader that due to environmental encroachment, through poaching and war, this emotionally intelligent (EQ) species could face extinction. “Save the bonobos, Save the world” says she write in her 12th step.

As a piece of literature, The Bonobo Way is a multifaceted exploration into ecological advocacy and sexual self-help. The preservation of the bonobos and conservation of their bioregion is coupled with a call to action to repair our relationship with our “over-farmed and abused mother earth” (83). Block’s research and observations are comparable to that of Christopher Ryan Ph.D (Sex At Dawn / Tangentially Speaking) and Vanessa Woods (Bonobo Handshake), while the sexual anecdotes peppered throughout the text stimulate the senses without over-spicing the narrative for the reader. The fusion of both the ecological and the sexual is just one more reason why The Bonobo Way is an outstanding book.

Look, the book is not just an addition to your library or nightstand, it is an investment into your sex life. At 240 pages it is available in print and eBook– the latter includes full color photos. Other features of the book are Dr. Block’s notes, which vary from “hat tips” to writers and rock stars, to supplemental information on clinical and “scene” terms, as well as vital socio-historical references, all of which help the reader to better understand why humanity is in need of a new great ape paradigm. Lastly, for those inspired to take action, the appendix of The Bonobo Way provides a list of sites and organizations that are dedicated to helping the bonobos, and a list of zoos, reserves, sanctuaries where bonobos can be seen. #GoBonobos!

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GoBonobos for “Femocracy Now!” Badges

28 Aug , 2017  

Show your Bonoboësque solidarity with these female empowering and pro-peace badges. Button up today!

Femocracy Now! badge worn by Dr. Suzy @ Domcon LA 2017

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Featured Bonobo: Mistress Jennifer

19 Feb , 2018  

With nearly a decade of pro-domme experience, Mistress Jennifer is well versed in the art of spanking, cock & ball torture, as well as tease & denial role-play. Her specialties include enemas and electro-play, SHOCKING! For the tarts and tramps, she’s packs a strap on and knows how to wield a dildo to keep cross dressers, adult babies, foot fetishists in line. This bonboësque femdom is also a therapist with the Dr. Susan Block Institute, available for phone sessions (and by appointment).  More…

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Featured Bonobo: Catherine

31 Aug , 2017   Gallery

cate-imperio-drsuzy-tv_lCatherine aka “The Anal Artist” is a punk rock renaissance woman renown for her innovative performances and professional creations. “I like to create shit” says Catherine, (Owner @electricSEXent ) one half of the @UnlicensedProfessionals duo this comedic vlogger, Lizard Queen is the Artist Manager for @TheDTEASE. Say hello to this Bonoboësque gal.

“‘Wow-wow-wild show!’ I had such a great time rocking out with all of you in the womb room! so much fun and freedom! thank you so much for having us Unlicensed Professionals and the Dtease!!!”

~Catherine Imperio‘s thoughts on Easter Eve DTEASE Res-Erection on DrSuzy-Tv!

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SEX & RELATIONSHIPS 9 Interesting Facts About Sex in the Animal Kingdom

17 Jul , 2017  

“Sex in the animal kingdom can get pretty wild, as you can imagine. Here are 9 bizarre facts about how animals get down” says Carrie Weisman.  Check out this insightful, and wildly entertaining article written by her. Read it online via Alternet and Salon.

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Featured Bonobo: Gypsy

27 Aug , 2017   Gallery

A thoughtful, exhibitionist, with a warm smile and plenty of tattoos, Gypsy Bonobo can be seen on The Dr. Susan Block Show as Dr. Suzy’s wonderful stage assistant. She is also a therapist with the Dr. Susan Block Institute, available for phone and webcam sessions (by appointment). Say hello to this Bonoboësque gal.


“Every week I love the show more and more! This week’s show was stuffed FULL of flogging,history, spanking and heart shaped hiney’s!! What a way to kick off pre-Lupercalia! Thank you Dr.Suzy for always sifting though the “alternative facts” to get to truth and always directing my attention to the important information every week, and educating me on how to live my life with peace through pleasure. The #bonoboway all day! xox P.S. Dr.Susan’s was ravishing tin the hot red number, and looked even cuter in it flogging away!! Love you!”  ~Gypsy’s thoughts on Pre-Lupercalia Fiber-Optic Flogfest!


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Get to Know a Bonobo: Chelsea Demoiselle

14 Jul , 2016  

“Sorry I’ve been away. I stepped over to “Events” and was working on something then neglected my feed … Helllooooooooo BONOBOVILLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

Chelsea Demoiselle

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Get to Know a Bonobo: Priestessm

10 Jul , 2016

“I love Dr. Suzy.
I hope to see this website flourish!!!”


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Louboutins, Communion, Sybian, Agwa Coca Leaf Liqueur, Ron de Jeremy Rum, Book-Spanking Dayton Rains & Jeanie Marie on DrSuzy.Tv!

22 Sep , 2015  

Louboutins, Communion, Sybian, Agwa Coca Leaf Liqueur, Ron de Jeremy Rum, Book-Spanking Dayton Rains & Jeanie Marie on DrSuzy.Tv!

by Dr. Susan Block

It’s the cusp of the Fall Equinox, but it still feels like the Bonobo Summer of Lovehere in the Womb Room, and oh my goddesses, is it hot… in more ways than one. My first featured guest is Jeanie Marie, adult star, budding film director and Jack the Zipper protégé. Decked out for her first trip to Bonoboville, Jeanie takes the stage in shiny black patent Christian Louboutin peep-toe stiletto high heels with signature red-lacquered bottoms, a little black couture dress trimmed in glamorous ostrich feathers and artfully applied crimson glitter lipstick with matching eye shadow, plus more sparkles spangling her high cheekbones.

More than a fashion plate, Jeanie’s artistic passion is to create films that convey the beauty of female sexuality, and we give her one of our telltale white envelopes containing a secret award from the Bonobo Way Female Empowerment Outreach Project, made possible in this auspicious Year of the Bonobo by an anonymous Bonobo Way reader and philanthropist.

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© September 20, 2015. Susan Block, Ph.D., a.k.a. “Dr. Suzy,” is a world renowned LA sex therapist, author of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure and horny housewife, occasionally seen on HBO and other channels. For speaking engagements, call 310-568-0066.

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