“But if I do that… if I allow myself to go down into that place… I’ll never come back.”

When it comes to what heroes should and should not do, is there a specific guide? And who exactly gets to define what heroes do? Apparently, executives at DC have decided what it is that our most revered (and fictional) heroes should do. According to a recent interview in Variety, co-creators of the Harley Quinn animated series, Justin Halpern and Patrick Schumacher, talked about the creative liberties of working with villains. However, when it came to the portrayal of the Dark Knight himself, DC bigwigs had more concerns.

“It’s incredibly gratifying and free to be using characters that are considered villains because you just have so much more leeway,” says Halpern. “A perfect example of that is in this third season of ‘Harley’ [when] we had a moment where Batman was going down on Catwoman. And DC was like, ‘You can’t do that. You absolutely cannot do that.’ They’re like, ‘Heroes don’t do that.’ So, we said, ‘Are you saying heroes are just selfish lovers?’ They were like, ‘No, it’s that we sell consumer toys for heroes. It’s hard to sell a toy if Batman is also going down on someone.’”

So it’s not OK for Batman to give Catwoman some head, but it’s perfectly OK for him to murder purple (as depicted in various comics, TV shows, and films). And do these people really want us to believe that sexy feline anti-hero Catwoman/Selena Kyle is going to be with a man that doesn’t eat pussy, least of all a caped crusader? Also, let us not forget that Batman/Bruce Wayne definitely gets laid. What Billionaire Playboy Genius Philanthropist wouldn’t? In the animated movie of The Killing Joke, Batman has sex with Batgirl. In Batman Returns, Bruce Wayne and Selina Kyle have some steamy rendezvous, with masks- and without.

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— DC Animated (@DC_Animated) June 15, 2021

As expected, social media has run amuck with the news, challenging DC to be sex positive. As far as comic-inspired shows go, Harley Quinn is pushing the envelope. It’s a shame that “going under the Red Hood” is being censored in the name of toy sales. However, children shouldn’t be watching the Harley Quinn series anyway. And they shouldn’t have been watching Christopher Nolan’s Batman either, or The Killing Joke, and let us not forget the overt sexiness of Tim Burton’s Batman, as well the campy, lusty gaze of Joel Schumacher (bat nipples, anyone?).

Anyways, we’re hoping that DC gets its act together and shows heroes doing more “human” acts because how can you be a hero if you’re not a giver?

Happy 69 day! It’s the 9th of June, and it’s a special date for everyone’s (or maybe just anyone sex-positive’s) favorite number! While today isn’t an official holiday, if you have a sexual partner, if you aren’t already, try to spice things up with the 69 position! Allow yourselves to simultaneously experience pleasure. May you and your partner enjoy it equally. 

While the 69 is often believed to be a singular position, there are a number of ways that you can experience it: 

Classic: Two people align themselves so that each person’s mouth is positioned near the other’s private parts. One lies on top with their knees straddling their partner’s head. They often perform oral sex on each other. The female partner is usually on the top. 

Inverted: It’s pretty much the same as the Classic version, except the male partner is typically on the top. 

Swinging: If you’re adventurous enough, and have a sex swing, you can do this already saucy position while suspended in midair!

Sideways: For this version, both partners lay on their sides. This is a little bit easier if you both want to relax a bit. 

Standing: For those more athletic people, you can enjoy the 69 while both standing. Just make sure your partner can handle holding you (or you can hold your partner) for an unspecified amount of time! 

Looking for tips on how to make the experience better? We’ve got you covered! Here are some ways you can enjoy your 69 Day…or ways you can enjoy the 69 year-round. 

1. Get comfy and protect your neck. For the partner on the bottom, make sure you have a pillow and get in a comfortable position! 
2. Don’t forget to use your hands too!
3. Take turns pleasuring each other. Please, don’t be selfish and allow one partner to do all the work. 
4. If it’s too uncomfortable, lie on your side. As mentioned above, this will make the experience easier for both partners. 
5. Have fun and don’t take sex too seriously! The best part of sex is just having fun with your partner. When you both can laugh together, it will alleviate the awkwardness that comes with sharing each other’s bodies. 

Happy sexual adventures! 

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, the definition of “fetish” is as follows: 

On the third Friday of every January is the celebration of International Fetish Day. A holiday born out of the United Kingdom in 2008 (as stance against the criminalization of possession of “extreme pornography”), the day was created to not only celebrate the fetish community, but to bring awareness to it as well. Additionally, it is a day for people to learn to embrace and openly share their kinkiness. In a time where proudly displaying one’s sexuality is still stigmatized and openly criminalized (especially in the Trump era and during Covid), International Fetish Day is just one of a number of sex-positive holidays aimed to bring pleasure to the forefront of human consciousness.

One way to celebrate International Fetish Day is to wear purple. “Perverts Wear Purple” is an aspect of this special day, as it differentiates members of the fetish community from “vanilla” folks. Depending on your feelings towards the word “pervert,” for some it is a reclamation of an often dirty term. Since purple is a color heavily used in BDSM circles, wearing purple is a quiet, yet powerful stance that shows that you’re not ashamed to be who you are, and that you like what you like. 

Too often in mainstream society, individuals are kink-shamed and made to stifle their innermost longings. In my opinion, if you aren’t (nonconsensually) harming yourself or others, there’s nothing to be afraid of. If we could all be our true selves without the burden of social stigma, the world would be a much happier place. 

Whether you’re new or seasoned in the kink world, whether you have a partner or not, use this day to embrace yourself. There are plenty of virtual meetups, seminars, and more on sites such as Fetlife, or you can make some time for play (respsonsibly) with a partner. Or if you don’t have a partner, you can still engage in a little self-love, and shower yourself with a new bondage outfit perhaps…

In the words of the fabulous Dr. Frankenfurter from The Rocky Horror Picture Show:

“Don’t dream it, be it.”

What’s your fetish?

A full load of position to keep your sex life going through hard times.

“The Saga of Finger Magazine

By David Steinberg

Once upon a time, and not so long ago, there was that peculiar period of cultural history we now refer to, somewhat inaccurately, as The Sixties. It was a time that changed the American sexual landscape forever, no matter how much people now laugh at bell-bottoms. Political activism shattered reverence for the American Way of Life as tens of millions of people protested the illegal, immoral war in Vietnam…” READ MORE

Instead of Valentine’s Day, Celebrate Lupercalia By Dr. Susan Block via Elephant Journal
Intro: “Saint Valentine” was a farce…it all began with a she-wolf.

In a world of fake news and “alternative facts,” it’s no surprise that we’ve been sold a Valentine’s Day fallacy, too.

The high holiday of love is a capitalist’s fairy tale, concocted by Hallmark’s 19th century forebearers to increase greeting card
sales.

It stars Saint Valentine, a Christian martyr who was arrested and condemned to death for unlawfully marrying young couples in pagan Rome. While imprisoned, Valentine healed his jailer’s blind daughter, who fell in love with the chaste priest. Before being executed on February 14th, he left the girl a farewell note (which she could now see, thanks to his saintly ophthalmology skills), signed, “Your Valentine.”

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Who’s Having the Most Sex?

Caroline Bologna via The Huffington Post

Greetings Bonoboville,

As I continue my commitment to #GoBonobos in 2017, I’m revisiting The Bonobo Way 12 Steps from Dr. Block’s book, The Bonobo Way.  The second step in this different kind of 12 step program is “Be a Bonobo.” Dr. Block has this to say, “like neotantric yoga, Tai Chi or belly dancing, many of these steps to releasing your inner bonobo begin with releasing your breath.” Step two focuses on the physical, mental and emotional elements of bonoboness; it is an inclusive process that weaves together hypnosis, Bonobo Liberation Therapy, the erotic theater of the mind, and medibation. Still not sure how to “Be a Bonobo?” Here are Three Ways to Live Like a Bonobo.

Wishing you lots of #PeaceThroughPleasure,
Del Rey

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The Bonobo Way by Dr. Susan Block.

“Bravo to Dr. Block for paving the way for a hopefully more bonobo future.
The Bonobo Way is a playful but insightful glimpse into our own sexuality and what we can learn from our closest, perhaps superior, relatives.”
—Vanessa Woods, best-selling author of Bonobo Handshake

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A vital part of good sex involves feeling… well, sexy.  While some of that feeling is purely mental or spiritual, a large part of it is physical. That includes feeling attracted to your partner’s body, if you have a partner. And it means feeling good about your own body, whether you have a partner or not.

Do you feel good about your body? Do you feel sexy in your skin? Or do you have “body image” issues that interfere with your ability to relax and enjoy yourself during sex?

Anxious About Your Body… or Body Parts?

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This Saturday night, November 5th, The Dr. Susan Block Show will celebrate Capt’n Max‘s Birthday, Guy Fawkes Day, pre-Election Day madness and the two-year anniversary of The Bonobo Way: The Evolution of Peace through Pleasure. Married for over 24 years to international sexologist and Bonobo Way author Dr. Susan Block, Capt’n Max, a.k.a., Pr. Maximillian R. Lobkowicz, was the pioneering publisher of the first “reader-written” media such as the LA Star, Love, Hate, Finger, The Brentwood Bla Bla and Beverly Hills, the Magazine. Together, Max and Dr. Suzy founded Bonoboville, both a new social-media and a real “socialist/capitalist,” pro-sex community in Los Angeles, known for producing the first reality-based sexuality programs, convivial “Speakeasies,” bonoboësque gatherings, erotic art exhibitions, bacchanalian soirées, life-changing lectures, sex-educational seminars, and priceless moments of communal ecstasy, with a portion of all proceeds going to help save the highly endangered real bonobos in the wild.

Ching Shih’s rise to power began in a floating brothel in Canton where she was a sex worker. It is ended with her taking charge of 1,800 pirate ships, and an estimated 80,000 men. She is one of the most successful pirates in history.