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How to Make the Most of “Single Sunday,” the Busiest Day of the Year for Dating Apps

2 Jan , 2021  

How did you spend your New Year’s Eve? Did you spend it with friends and family, and possibly a very special someone? Did you enjoy a kiss with your significant other as the clock struck midnight? Or are you one of the many who aren’t “booed up” during this holiday season? Are you currently looking for love as part of your New Year’s Resolutions? This Sunday may be a great day to start fresh with your love life. Despite the fact that we’re still in the midst of quarantine, online dating has opened up a world of possibilities if you’re looking to meet a special someone. If you’re open, there’s no geographical constraints and no limits to what you can find! No matter what you believe, there’s always someone out that has the same interests, passions, and dreams as you! 

There’s are plenty of holidays that celebrate couples, but what about those of us that aren’t in relationships? The first Sunday after New Year’s, unofficially dubbed “Dating Sunday” or “Singles Sunday” is the busiest day of the year for dating sites. More than any other time, it’s the perfect opportunity to search for a match. Following the end of Cuffing Season, and preceding Valentine’s Day, Dating Sunday is the first “holiday” of the year for singles on the prowl.

With the loneliness and isolation caused by the Coronavirus, perhaps we may see an even bigger surge of activity on dating apps. Since many of us are still confined to our homes, we have to put in a bit more leg work to find meaningful and lasting connections. 

According to multiple reports, there’s a dramatic increase in site signups, messages sent, and matches made. In 2020, Match.com predicted a 65% increase in registrations, while other sites such as Tinder made 44 million matches in 2017. So, if you’re looking for your perfect match, why not take advantage now!

But first, here are some ways to make the most of the busiest online dating day of the year:

  1. Be authentic: In the simplest of terms, be yourself. You’re more likely to attract a more worthwhile partner when you aren’t afraid to show off who you really are. No matter how niche your interests, or no matter how weird you think you are, there’s bound to be someone who will appreciate you.
  2. Don’t be afraid to be upfront about what you’re looking for: Be honest about what you’re looking for in a relationship. Are you looking for something more short-term, or long-term? What are your dealbreakers? What are some must-have qualities? Do you live a certain lifestyle, and want a partner who does the same? Let it be known early on. The great thing about online dating is that you can browse profiles and weed people out pretty quickly.
  3. Try multiple sites: It’s true that some sites are better than others. However, in order to increase your chances of meeting someone, why not signup for multiple apps? There’s sites such as Tinder, Match, Plenty of Fish, OkCupid, Bumble, Coffee Meets Bagle, Hinge, and more. Looking for something a bit more specific? There’s also interest and lifestyle-driven apps out there as well, including Bonoboville, which allows free personals in order to find your prime mate (pun intended).
  4. Take the time to fill out your profile (and read other people’s profiles): Want to improve your matches? Take the time to fill out your dating profile. While there are sites like Tinder that don’t allow for a lot of descriptions, plenty of other sites allow you to extensively fill out your interests and even answer fun questions that will really give an insight into your personality. It’s easy to get swept up in looks, but do pay attention to what they say. If you don’t pay attention, you might miss something important and waste both your time and the other person’s.
  5. Be optimistic! While online dating can be challenging at times, a bit of patience and a lot of optimism will take you a long way. Being positive about the process will make it easier to attract a potential partner. If something doesn’t work out, there are plenty of people out there!

Happy New Year and happy dating!

If you’re looking for more advice about online dating during Coronavirus, check out this article from the Dr. Susan Block Institute.

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What About Dating in the Era of Social Distancing?

12 Oct , 2020  

Over the course of history, there have been landmark events that reinvented our approach to sex such as the mass production of the car, World War II (with the fifties and the rise of the nuclear family following suit), the invention of birth control, and even pandemics of past generations.

This wouldn’t be the first time that the United States has dealt with a monstrous pandemic. The Spanish Flu of 1918 also altered dating and intimacy, where any forms of sexual contact (especially kissing) were regarded as deadly and taboo. As social distancing proves itself to be the new normal, once again we’ll have to adapt.

While humans are attached to technology, at the same time we still crave face-to-face interactions. How do we build relationships and experience pleasure with other humans without the ease of social events? Over the past several months, it seems as if we’ve regressed to Regency-era antics akin to Pride and Prejudice, with wistful stares across the room, and where merely brushing fingers is like tasting the Forbidden Fruit. In the midst of a transitional period in history, how are those of us stuck in limbo going to make do?

With a culture driven by technology, finding love (or temporary satisfaction) is a double-edged sword. On one hand, the internet has unveiled a host of possibilities. Free of geographical constraints, and connecting bridges between unique interests, souls may find each other online that may have without the help of the internet. Over the past two decades, there have been millions of platonic, romantic, and purely sexual bonds that have formed with the aid of cyberspace. On the other hand, social media has increased the amount of lazy and surface-level interactions. Due to the abundance of readily available information, and the lack of effort needed to attain it, modern sex and dating have become even more of a conundrum. 

To top it off, the hookup culture of today combined with hustle mentality and our increasingly nomadic nature has placed short-lived, self-serving ecstasy above meaningful relationships founded on mutual interests and taking the time to “get to know each other.” Sure the latter still happens, but it has become increasingly difficult to find. 

Over the past several months, I’ve pondered what social distancing means for the future of those of us that are still very single. If you’re looking for love or lust, this period proves to be a massive hurdle to overcome. For the time being, gone are the days of meeting a hottie at a bar or a fated run-in in a coffee shop. Gone are the days of which you’d swipe right and link up for a steamy rendezvous. If you don’t have a thriving inner circle, it may be a task to meet new people who share your beliefs and interests. 

So now what? 

At this time, it’s important to be optimistic. If you’re still looking to try your hand at dating, perhaps it’s time to rejoin those dating apps you’ve sworn off. It may take a bit of mining and right-swiping, but there’s still a possibility that there’s someone just like you looking for you too. Also, in the virtual world, there are tons of classes, workshops, and gatherings to meet people. If you can find a regular gathering that suits your interests, you can add more interesting people to your circle. There’s a little more effort involved to meet like-minded souls these days, but it’s still possible. During the era of social distancing, this means that most individuals will be more selective of potential partners, and will more than likely take more time to get to know one another, or in some cases, there will be less “game-playing.” If someone isn’t interested, they simply won’t move forward.

On the other hand, quarantine is an excellent time for self-discovery and self-love. If you’re not used to being alone, this is a great time for rest and relaxation. It’s also a great time to develop and learn outside of the influence of others. While isolation can be harrowing, it forces some introspection. With everything moving at a slower pace, there’s more time to figure out who you are, where you are going, and what you want your current life to look like. Whenever you’re ready to put yourself out there again, you’ll be a better person, and have a better knowledge of what you’d like out of a relationship. 

So what direction are you heading towards?

STAY TUNED FOR PART II of this article with suggestions on sexy activities during quarantine!

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Cosmopolitan Reports on What Dating Looked Like During the 1918 Spanish Flu

5 Sep , 2020  

Due to the ongoing Coronavirus pandemic, dating has become increasingly more difficult. Social distancing and the lack of physical touch can make any growing relationship struggle, and cause a fair share of difficulties for anyone looking to put themselves out there. However, this isn’t the first time that the United States has endured a pandemic. Back in 1918, the Spanish Flu ravaged the country, causing 676,000 fatalities in the states alone (the world total is reported to be an estimated 50 million). Without modern technology such as the internet, how did people in the Interwar period attempt to date? Cosmopolitan highlights the ways in which people connected during the Spanish Flu:

 

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a33901472/dating-during-spanish-flu-pandemic/

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HOW GAME THEORY IMPROVES DATING APPS | URI BRAM via 1843 MAGAZINE

13 Nov , 2016  

game-theory“Traditional heterosexual dating apps have a fatal flaw: women get flooded with low-quality messages – at best vapid, at worst boorish – to the point where checking the inbox becomes an unappealing chore. Partly as a result, men see most of their messages ignored. Nobody is happy, but nobody can do anything about it. Well, none of the users, individually, can. But a new generation of dating apps impose limitations on daters that might liberate them….”  Read more


 

Uri Bram is contributing editor at The Browser and the author of “Thinking Statistically” | ILLUSTRATION DONOUGH O’MALLEY

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